I don’t know about you, but the hype for this movie really gets me going.
Check out my guest blog in The National Catholic Register:
Fifty Shades of Psychologically Imprudent, Self-Defeating and Out of Touch with Reality
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I remember reading a great book by Harville Hendrix years ago, Getting the Love You Want. The point he made so well was that we tend to marry our lost self - that part of ourselves that may have gone underground because of past wounds from our childhood. He also made the point that whatever mistakes may be made in a first marriage, these tend to be repeated in the second. The underlying reason is the unconscious motivations that lead us to choose the partners that we do. Tragically many divorces could be avoided if we understood this.
Well, here’s something I never thought I’d write about: The Super Bowl. My history with it has been uneven, at best. I used to see it as a great time to get out with my girlfriends. Restaurants and movie theatres were empty - the world was my oyster! Then I graduated to the Super Bowl party - the great post holiday excuse to see friends, eat lots of junk, and break up the monotony of winter. Now it’s more sedate as my honey actually likes to watch the game and not be distracted by the party. My constant questions like “Are you rooting for the blue guys?” and “Why is everyone screaming?” are distractions enough.
Remember the consolation prize? You picked the wrong door on Let’s Make a Deal and instead of a new car or an all expense paid trip to Hawaii you got a year's supply of Eskimo pies or Rice-a-Roni - the San Francisco treat. Always made me wonder how consoling such prizes actually were!
(And, what IS the average daily requirement of Eskimo pies?)
In the abortion debates that have gone on for over four decades in America, there are an awful lot of assumptions that are made. The first one being that a woman has a right to choose abortion to avoid ruining her life by having an unplanned child. Without critical thought, such an argument seems to make sense…but only with the false assumption that an abortion helps the woman in the long run. Mounds of evidence refute this. Interestingly, a woman who had an abortion in the past is as much as six times more likely to join a pro-life group in the future.
Relationships can be so wonderful and life giving. God designed it that way. We are literally made for relationships - with Him and with one another. One of the mistakes that we make though is believing that a relationship can “complete” us. If we meet the right person then we can finally be whole and happy. Well, there’s some truth to that. When our significant other has qualities that we don’t have, as a unit we can be more effective and experience greater joys…depending on those differences, of course.
Ah, it’s a new year and time to set our resolutions of all the good things we would like to do and all the bad things we would like to stop doing. But New Year’s resolutions have become almost cliché. So many jokes are made about giving up on those resolutions by the middle of January that it may make you feel almost silly to even admit that you made any.
I find a similar phenomenon when it comes to my to-do list and my list of goals.
As Advent begins our thoughts often turn to the gifts we’re hoping to receive and what gifts to get for loved ones. It can be quite a challenge. But how often do we think of the real gifts that we should be asking for?
As I meditate on the Rosary mysteries throughout the year, I usually preface each decade by asking for a virtue associated with that mystery. For instance, for the Resurrection I ask for Faith and for the Ascension- Hope. I’m not original…got it from a rosary prayer meditation guide years ago.
But when it comes to the Birth of Jesus, I get very bold and ask for 3 virtues.
In 24 years I’ve seen a lot of clients, mostly Catholic and Christian. And because I am a specifically Catholic therapist (ie. I integrate the faith into the process and follow the teachings of the Church), many of the clients I see will discuss their troubles not only from a psychological point of view but from a spiritual perspective as well. Many seek therapy because they are troubled by past sins and in some cases, present sins from which they cannot seem to break free.
Let’s face it…this “season of joy” is often a season of stress, angst and irritation. Families can be wonderful but there’s usually one or two that challenge even the most Christian among us.
Here are some tips: