It’s not hard to find victims today - individuals and groups of people who have been hurt, marginalized, violated, or humiliated. We live in a tough world which seems to be getting tougher all the time. For many their gripes are legitimate. They got a bad deal or a bad rap. Sometimes it wasn’t their fault at all, and other times, it wasn’t entirely their fault. Their punishment for mistakes, or poor judgment, seems to well exceed their crimes. They are angry, bewildered, and frustrated. Most of us can relate to some extent as none of us are immune to hurt in this world.
I sat next to my cousin’s adorable 2 year old, Lily, at a family bridal shower on Sunday. It was her first “all ladies” event and she was so excited to go with mommy while daddy and big brother stayed behind. She ate her pasta, ignored the salad, and then came every child’s favorite: the chicken fingers and fries.
All seems to be going well until it’s not. It’s at this point the nagging questions surface and it’s easy to start dissecting everything about the relationship and the sudden break up you find yourself navigating through. Whatever the reason a guy (or girl) may end the dating relationship, we need to find a way to cope with it and move forward.
One of the facts of life is that it's not fair. Things happen that we're not necessarily responsible for and yet can be affected by deeply. Our first parents, Adam and Eve, sinned and we each carry the burden of that Original Sin, leaving us weakened toward actual sins in our own lives. It’s the reality of the human condition.
Have you ever felt sad and happy at the same time? It’s an odd feeling trying to reconcile two opposite emotions. Feelings can be strange bedfellows at times.
The past couple of days brought sadness at the passing of Mother Angelica but also abundant and deep joy for her to be called home on Easter Sunday. God is so amazingly faithful.
One can readily assert that there are many conditions that are needed to be truly happy. Health, good relationships, satisfying work, and purpose are the first that come to mind. But my own experience and professional observation leads me to conclude that there is one requirement that trumps all others. Without this, it is unlikely you’ll ever be truly happy.
In my recent post I talked about the advantages of single people having good friends of the opposite sex. I believe both men and women can benefit from having such friends and it can set you up for a better future marriage.
But we need to be very careful in discerning when we should pursue or accept such a friendship, when we shouldn’t, and what boundaries can make them not only possible but positive.
It’s that time of year again. Time for penance, almsgiving and fasting as we prepare to celebrate Easter, the great mystery of our redemption.
Many Catholics who are serious about their faith say they actually enjoy lent. It’s like boot camp to get our souls in shape; to slow down the pace a bit, spend more time in prayer and look within with an eye to improving ourselves and deepening our relationship with God.
Age old debate: Can men and women be friends and not wind up in bed together? Will men only befriend women to whom they are attracted with the hopes of a romantic or sexual relationship? This was the big question is the classic comedy When Harry Met Sally. Harry, attracted to Sally, asserted that men and women can’t be friends and will always wind up in bed together. Sally disagreed.
Ask anyone today how they are doing and two out of three will answer with “busy.” It’s a crazy world out there. We’re overwhelmed like never before. There’s little time to focus in and make meaningful changes that will make our lives better. One reason is that it seems like it will be too much work and take too long. Who has the time these days?