Have you ever bought a new car? You start looking around and researching models until you find “the one”- the perfect car, the one that has everything you’ve been dreaming about- a unique beauty. Once you’ve decided and start getting excited a curious thing happens…you suddenly start seeing them everywhere. Whereas a month ago no one seemed to have been driving “your car”, now everyone seems to be in on your secret and they’re all over the road.
A similar phenomenon happens in psychology.
Well, that seems to be the prevalent attitude these days. Men let you down. They only want one thing. They don’t listen, they don’t show emotions and they don’t do anything that a woman can’t do. Worst of all, they make more money than women!
Hmmm…sound familiar? And we’re not just talking about secular society… regrettably we see this attitude in the Church as well. Many women have bought into it, consciously or unconsciously. Even more amazing is how many men have gone along as well.
I remember a couple I saw many years ago. They were married one year and I was their fourth marriage counselor. After the first session it didn’t look good- they were quite a challenge. But, never one to flee a challenge I decided I’d give it time and see what we could do.
They were tough! Many sessions were ping pong matches, with words, insults and complaints hurled back and forth with me barely able to get a word in edgewise.
When Pope Benedict announced his retirement the Catholic world was abuzz. I wrote “Be Careful You Don’t Become the Next Pope” in response to what I saw were astounding displays of fear and pride. Many pledged to “police” his every word and action and boy, they’ve been true to their promise!
What occurs to me is this: As Christians we are a family. The Pope is our Holy Father and the Church our mother.
The glory of Easter morning! The horrific events of the crucifixion are eclipsed by joy, disbelief and astounding glory. He is risen. Truly risen. He has conquered death and with it, all sins that lead to death. We are saved. We are set free. It’s REALITY! The God who IS reality, “I AM” has told us, has proven Himself through His cross and resurrection.
“Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is — his good, pleasing and perfect will.” Romans 12:2
Intentions, by definition, are: the things that you plan to do or achieve; an aim or a purpose.
These could be good or bad intentions just like anything else. By choosing positive intentions, with a positive mindset, we feel most in line with our purpose for the world and for the greater good. Plus, it just feels good!
Sometimes it’s seems hard to be an American Catholic. The Church preaches the Cross and the Constitution preaches our right to pursue happiness. How do we reconcile the two? It’s a challenge. Let’s face it, living here in the U.S., it’s hard to avoid the bombardment of enticements for the latest toys, pleasures and conveniences. They’re attractive, after all. And having human emotions we are naturally attracted to all that’s good, beautiful and true. Pictures of that Caribbean beach vacation package are going to get our attention, especially this year as we experience the coldest temperatures on record.
I can do all things through Him who strengthens me. Philippians 4:13
Lent – a time to repent; to look at things in our lives that we know are not in alignment with God. A time when we focus on simple living, prayer, and fasting in order to grow closer to God and leading up to the Resurrection of our Lord. My question is why just during Lent? Growing up I couldn’t comprehend why people were always giving something up during this time. I understood from the Bible why we did. What I couldn’t understand was why we didn’t just live our lives this way all the time.
In no area of life do we experience more pain than when it comes to broken relationships. Obviously an equally heart wrenching experience is losing a loved one through death. The pain of divorce, though, can often be more devastating and lead to longer term stress. Even the break up of romantic non-marital relationships can take a heavy toll.
There’s nothing worse than running into and “ex” with whom you had a bad ending. It’s awkward. It can be painful. But it doesn’t have to be. Imagine running into an ex without all that angst?
I don’t know about you, but the hype for this movie really gets me going.
Check out my guest blog in The National Catholic Register:
Fifty Shades of Psychologically Imprudent, Self-Defeating and Out of Touch with Reality
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