Do you bristle at the idea of being “obedient” in marriage? Many do. But perhaps it’s not as bad as it sounds…
For Catholics, addressing issues of domestic abuse and navigating their options can feel especially challenging because of our teaching on the sacramentality of marriage. When we look to the Church’s teaching on the Sacrament of Marriage, it clearly explains the reason our Catholic faith holds such a strict view of marriage and its indissolubility.
“Love and marriage go together like a horse and carriage…” This old time song is as true today as ever, and we now have a deeper understanding from both Scripture and science of how love and marriage “dance” together and how to restore the dance when the music stops.
Our Catholic faith teaches us that marriage is a Sacrament, meaning that there is actual grace in a Sacramental marriage. This grace is what assists husbands and wives to live out marriage joyfully, sacrificially, and lovingly. However, we are still Fallen creatures so even with the grace present in a Sacramental marriage we suffer from concupiscence, the propensity towards selfishness and sin, which causes us to wound each other.
So, you have discerned that you are called to married life. Now what?
In a previous article, I made the point that women need to respect men for who they are and not wait until they “earn it”. A question posed to me in reply is a good one and worthy of consideration. How do you respect a man who, by his own actions, or serious omissions, has lost your respect, or worse, earned your disrespect?
One of the many blessings that flow from the Catholic Church’s unswerving stance against divorce – or better, for the permanence of marriage – is that the Catholic theology of marriage has a depth and richness rarely found in Protestant thought, and wholly foreign to secular thought.
Well, that seems to be the prevalent attitude these days. Men let you down. They only want one thing.
Understand how to triumph over old habits that have been holding you back by following Mary’s example with the first word she said in scripture.
Raised an evangelical Protestant with degrees in Christian Ministries and biblical studies, and an ordained Pastor, I would have never imagined that in 2003 my wife and I would be received into full fellowship with the Roman Catholic Church.