The Raphael Remedy

Changing My Mindset Made all the Difference

by | Apr 5, 2022 | Counseling

I know there are a lot of people out there that are struggling with self-esteem and anger.  I too have struggled. I thought I was condemned, unlovable, and just lived from crisis to crisis.

Years ago, I had an accident that left me with a Traumatic Brain Injury (TBI).  I lost my memories from before the accident.  I was in the Army at the time, which was a blessing because I could just follow what everyone else was doing and not have to rely on my memory too much. Worst of all, I thought I was a failure. Somehow, I got the wrong idea that I was supposed to being doing this healing journey on my own. My journey to healing eventually lead me to finding my faith in God and taught me I had to be willing to share my concerns with others and to ask for help.

As I moved along on my journey, I realized that it was how I looked at events that could cause me more pain, or less. I had a fast anger disposition; and my anger could be triggered at the snap of a finger. But now I have learned how to maintain my peace.

Let me give you an example of how life has changed for me: my trip to the UPS STORE. I get my printing done there and if I email what I need printed on Monday, it should be ready to pick up by Friday. One Friday I arrived, and the clerk did not have it ready. Not only that, but she could also not get into the computer. A line began to form, and I suggested she work with the next in line. She was not able to get the next lady’s card to work. She eventually paid with cash. The next in line needed something weighed to ship and she was unable to get the scale to work. She finally used a different scale, and they were on their way. You get the picture.

I began letting those who were coming in know that she was having a tough time and the machines weren’t working well. Some left, but what I observed among those who stayed was they were cheering her on as things were being accomplished. Two and a half hours later I finally had my printed items and was able to leave. The slight change of being present to her situation and not allowing myself to be triggered by my own frustration made a huge difference. Had I been self-focused, I would not have noticed her struggles and would have just been frustrated and very angry at my inconvenience and would have felt like a victim.

Understanding how my mindset was the real key to peace, not my circumstances, lead me to want to provide coaching as a profession. Can you relate? Are you frustrated a lot of the time? Do you find yourself in patterns and wish you can change? You can. I did. Managing your mindset is the key.

As a Catholic Life Coach, not only do I use coaching principles to help you, but even more importantly, by applying the wisdom and teachings of the Catholic faith, I can help you start on the road to complete transformation…and peace. After all, isn’t that what Jesus came to bring us? And in this crazy world in which we find ourselves, peace is still attainable. But it is up to you to take the first step.

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