The Raphael Remedy

Don’t Go It Alone In 2024

by | Jan 10, 2024 | Coaching

Ok, resolutions set? On your mark, get set, and go!

Or has the motivation passed already? I can relate. We start the year with such good intentions and such high hopes but it doesn’t take too long before we realize we may have been overly ambitious.

Mid-January is a good time to really re-evaluate your plans and formulate something more realistic. But by realistic I don’t necessarily mean to give up and just go back to status quo. Your hopes and motivations were there for a reason—there’s a part of you that likely has high hopes for change and success in whatever area you’re thinking of—relationships, organization, business/career success, your health, or your finances.

So, let’s take a look at what resolutions actually are. Resolutions are basically decisions, perhaps firm decisions, would be more accurate. Resolutions come about as the result of thought and deliberation. Hence, you need to spend some time looking at the bigger picture of what you really want and why you really want it.

We often confuse decisions with goals, but they are actually quite different. A goal is fueled by a motivation and involves a time frame and actionable steps to meet the goal in that time frame. Without a timeframe, it’s actually more of a wish than a goal. There’s nothing wrong with wishes, they are the seeds that get us started, but you want to be careful not to confuse the two or you will wind up mighty frustrated.

Decisions are made to make our wishes a reality by setting goals and time frames and resolving to act upon them. So, you can see that simply making a list of your wishes in the new year (or any time, for that matter) is simply not enough and is often a recipe for failure and frustration.

Now depending on what your goals are, they may, and usually do, need to be broken down into smaller pieces with smaller time frames. Imagine if in the morning, your breakfast, lunch, snacks, dinner and dessert were served to you on one plate. It would be rather overwhelming, and likely quite nauseating. So, instead of looking at a whole year ahead, breaking the year down into quarters can be really helpful. Smaller action steps on shorter timelines to reach the full goal at the end of the quarter. For bigger projects, the sum total of the quarterly planning can fulfill your annual goals.

Sounds good right?

Yeah, right…maybe you’ve been there and been disappointed before as the year takes off and ends with the same list you started with so you’re hesitant to try again. But why is that?

What I’ve observed is that the biggest obstacle to making changes stick is attempting to do it all on our own. The fact is that when we have someone to help us discern, formulate doable action steps and gently hold us accountable, we get more accomplished and with less stress. That’s where coaching can be a real game changer!

Unlike therapy, coaching is generally short term, goal oriented, flexible and more affordable. A good coach partners with you to help you cut through your mental clamor to discern the goals most suited to you right now and then helps you formulate the action steps to make those goals a reality. A coach walks alongside you to gently keep you accountable, identify and overcome obstacles and to maximize your inner strengths and talents. Coaching can be truly life changing!

We often think of coaching for specific endeavors, like for sports, singing, acting and business. If one wants to excel in any of those fields, coaching is not only common, but indispensable.

But what about excelling in your vocation as a spouse, a parent, a teacher, in your dating relationships, in your career or business? Are those endeavors less important? No! They are actually more important as living your vocation well impacts your family and community and determines your eternity.

Catholic life coaches understand that. As a rather new modality in the Church, coaching, in my opinion, is an exciting and important tool in the new evangelization. After all, the Church can’t be fully alive, unless the individuals within it are alive and on fire.

So, depending on where you’re being called, working with a Catholic life coach can be transformative for you. A few areas of specialty include:

Personal growth and Development
Family and Relationships
Financial and Fiscal Responsibility

Take some time to browse and see which coaches may be a good fit for you. Don’t be afraid to call and see how they may be able to help you. Most offer a free getting to know you session, so there’s nothing to lose….and everything to gain.

Make 2024 the year you accomplish what you set out to…and set the world around you on fire. Heaven knows this dark world needs your light!

Wishing you a blessed and happy new year!

Allison Ricciardi, LMHC
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